What I have never under stood, is why moms judge each other. A few months ago my son Paul lost 4 pounds in the span of one month. I was exclusively breastfeeding on demand , and he was eating all the time. At his prior check ups, he always measured petite, but his doctor was never worried about it since he was gaining weight. We now know the weight loss was because he could not eat enough, because he is tongue tied, lip tied, and has 2 cheek ties. Which we will be going to the dentist to fix (after they are back from vacation). The online mommy-group I was a part of knew about this and used the information to call into question my ability to parent my child. I was sad, heartbroken, and angry. Why do moms hurt each other so badly? I have always felt that if you breastfeed? cool for you. You formula feed? awesome. You exclusively pump? cool. Why does it matter as long as you are feeding your child and he or she is gaining weight? Does it really matter how we choose to feed, clothe, or parent our children? As long as it is not abuse, then it really does not matter. We all have the same goal here, to raise happy productive members of society, and if they don't need therapy as adults, then bonus! Maybe if we all tried to not judge a mom for her parenting choices, and supported her instead then maybe the world would be just a little bit better. Sure there are some parenting styles that I personally would not do, but that does not make it ok to trash-talk the mom who does. Let's start a revolution, Reach out to the tired looking mom at the grocery store with 4 kids acting like jungle animals. Pat her on the shoulder and tell her, "You are a good mom." or simply give her a smile. Comment and let me know what state you are in and if you have a supportive mommy-group you are a part of.
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